I got my head shaved on April 10, 2010. The date has no particular meaning for me. I got my head shaved for several reasons. The most noble ones are those listed my Mireille in the post “A bold move“.
This how I got it done and how it went:
- Preparing the people I care for the most:
- This includes my parents, my brother & sister and my very close friends. My boyfriend never had an issue with whatever action I do as long as I was convinced and happy about it. (Salim, I love you!)
- How I did it? By simply talking about it, discussing it and exposing the reasons behind it. It was important for me to understand that having my head shaved was viewed as extreme and aggressive. So I totally acknowledged all point of views with patience and built upon them. I also involved them in the process. I was frequently taking my mother with me to all the places she thought could be an alternative for shaving. I can tell you that everybody (but my boyfriend) was hoping that I would change my mind.
- Preparing the workplace:
- Saying “Tomorrow, I am going to shave” proved to be quite a shocker and thus, I had to comfort my colleagues that I wasn’t there to compromise the corporate image of the company (Oh, I am an employee too! 😀 ) by wearing a decent wig.
- Choosing my new hair:
- I went to Eve by Karkafi where I met really supportive staff. Although I was familiar with hair extensions, I had no idea about how to deal with a full wig made of natural hair. David, an employee there was patient enough to listen to my story. I explained why, told him I need a short good & natural looking wig that I would wear for work and ended bombarding him with 1000 questions. David listened till the end, explained how he viewed the situation from a professional point of view and ended by proposing several solutions. I picked the one I was most comfortable with and we took it from there. He tried several cuts on me as well as colors until I decided how I wanted my wig to be. The next day, the wig was ready to come home with me…on my head! (Thank you David.)
- Comforting the family:
- I gave my family members the time to get used to my look with the wig and had them accepted it.
- I told them that I was still the same and not to worry about me; besides I was really convinced for the best reasons!
- And just in case I didn’t like it, hair grows!
- Calling the hairdresser:
- Calling Mireille!
- She was the first person who came to mind when I thought of whom I wanted next to me for support. (Thank you Mir for rescheduling your meetings just for me!)
- Mireille also posted “A bold move” after I expressed my intention for a Fun(d) Raising event.
- Hair Shaved Day:
- Picked up Mireille and went to Salon Tony Ibrahim.
- Got a few grooming things done.
- Got a make up made by the trusted Caroline Sarkissian (Who was extremely supportive of my cause.)
- Got my head shaved under the excited eye of Mireille who was taking pictures.
- The shave:
- The first second, felt like someone was tearing my hair.
- I closed my eyes for 3 seconds and took a deep breath, I need to get accustomed to what was happening in the mirror. I admit, the moment was intense.
- When my head got half shaved, I looked in the mirror and smiled. I felt sexy!
- Here is something I thought would be quite an ordeal to manage: People’s reactions. Well, bizarrely, several women in salon approached me and congratulated me for having my head shaved! One asked me if this was the new trend, another told me that her sister did the same. One said she’d love to do it herself and another asked me if I got married. (Errr, how is this one related? No idea.)
- I went out to meet my boyfriend and some friends to hang out. Everyone was amazed that I actually did it and felt proud.
- An employee at a store spoke to me in English thinking I was a tourist!
To tell you the truth, I didn’t care what people would say nor how they would look at me. I was out just being myself. All I can say is that I have never felt more comfortable and confident in my entire life. I have never felt sexier or more attractive. Courage? Guts? “Balls”? I really don’t know. My heart did not race during the shave and I was smiling all the time.
Today, I wish I had shaved my head long time ago. I can’t believe I passed next to the most amazing experience all this time. I am happy and proud.
I am a girl, I live in Lebanon and I got my head shaved!
Here are the other – not so noble – reasons I want to share as a duty to myself honesty:
- No brushing
- No spray
- No gel
- No accessories to keep the hair away from my face
- No conditioner
- No combs
- No hair dryer
- No coloring issues
- No hair care treatments
- No hair extensions
- Behavior modification:
- No shower problems (hot water, timing of the shower)
- No skullcap needed while swimming
- No trouble sleeping/going out with wet hair
- No discomfort driving with the air blowing on my face (It used to blow my hair)
- No sweaty neck in the summer
- No weird look after taking off a hat
- No more bad hair days
- No more dull hair
- No more wet hair look at the beach
- No more oily looks
- No hair-loss discomfort
- No more “what should I do with my hair” question
- No hair style issues
- No more looking at the mirror for more than a minute
- No more playing with my curls
- No more hair sticking on my lips
Quick tips if you finally decide to step up and do it:
- Don’t overexpose yourself to the sun immediately after the shave. Do it gradually in order to avoid useless sunburns and have a good looking homogeneous tan.
- When temperature is really low, always cover your head to keep warm.
- Smile a lot!
Fun(d) Raising details coming soon!
Follow up posts:
- A bold move by Mireille
- Would you date a bald chick? by Ivy
- A bald move by an even bolder woman.. by Lorena
- A few minutes in Rita’s wig by Lorena
- My take on the wig
- Why men grow beards
- Tamanna kids list of wishes
- Metlik Metleh by Chantal
- Chantal’s move
- Donate your hair!
- Making the move by Chantal
- Fun(d) Raising tweetup & Kids with cancer initiative overview
- First interaction by Chantal
- Thank you note from Tamanna
- Donate you hair! by Subway mom
- Mimi gets her first haircut by Subway mom
- Interview on Oyoun Beirut show – Orbit TV station