I got my head shaved!

I got my head shaved on April 10, 2010. The date has no particular meaning for me. I got my head shaved for several reasons. The most noble ones are those listed my Mireille in the post “A bold move“.

This how I got it done and how it went:

  1. Preparing the people I care for the most:
    • This includes my parents, my brother & sister and my very close friends. My boyfriend never had an issue with whatever action I do as long as I was convinced and happy about it. (Salim, I love you!)
    • How I did it? By simply talking about it, discussing it and exposing the reasons behind it. It was important for me to understand that having my head shaved was viewed as extreme and aggressive. So I totally acknowledged all point of views with patience and built upon them. I also involved them in the process. I was frequently taking my mother with me to all the places she thought could be an alternative for shaving. I can tell you that everybody (but my boyfriend) was hoping that I would change my mind.
  2. Preparing the workplace:
    • Saying “Tomorrow, I am going to shave” proved to be quite a shocker and thus, I had to comfort my colleagues that I wasn’t there to compromise the corporate image of the company (Oh, I am an employee too! 😀 ) by wearing a decent wig.
  3. Choosing my new hair:
    • I went to Eve by Karkafi where I met really supportive staff. Although I was familiar with hair extensions, I had no idea about how to deal with a full wig made of natural hair. David, an employee there was patient enough to listen to my story. I explained why, told him I need a short good & natural looking wig that I would wear for work and ended bombarding him with 1000 questions. David listened till the end, explained how he viewed the situation from a professional point of view and ended by proposing several solutions. I picked the one I was most comfortable with and we took it from there. He tried several cuts on me as well as colors until I decided how I wanted my wig to be. The next day, the wig was ready to come home with me…on my head! (Thank you David.)
  4. Comforting the family:
    • I gave my family members the time to get used to my look with the wig and had them accepted it.
    • I told them that I was still the same and not to worry about me; besides I was really convinced for the best reasons!
    • And just in case I didn’t like it, hair grows!
  5. Calling the hairdresser:
    • Well, for a first time, I preferred to get in contact with the person I felt comfortable. This was Tony Ibrahim (Website coming soon). I asked him if he was OK with it. (Actually, I knew he was. I used to asked him if it would look good on me and he always thought it would.)
  6. Calling Mireille!
    • She was the first person who came to mind when I thought of whom I wanted next to me for support. (Thank you Mir for rescheduling your meetings just for me!)
    • Mireille also posted “A bold move” after I expressed my intention for a Fun(d) Raising event.
  7. Hair Shaved Day:
    • Picked up Mireille and went to Salon Tony Ibrahim.
    • Got a few grooming things done.
    • Got a make up made by the trusted Caroline Sarkissian (Who was extremely supportive of my cause.)
    • Got my head shaved under the excited eye of Mireille who was taking pictures.
  8. The shave:
    • The first second, felt like someone was tearing my hair.
    • I closed my eyes for 3 seconds and took a deep breath, I need to get accustomed to what was happening in the mirror. I admit, the moment was intense.
    • When my head got half shaved, I looked in the mirror and smiled. I felt sexy!
  9. Reactions:
    • Here is something I thought would be quite an ordeal to manage: People’s reactions. Well, bizarrely, several women in salon approached me and congratulated me for having my head shaved! One asked me if this was the new trend, another told me that her sister did the same. One said she’d love to do it herself and another asked me if I got married. (Errr, how is this one related? No idea.)
    • I went out to meet my boyfriend and some friends to hang out. Everyone was amazed that I actually did it and felt proud.
    • An employee at a store spoke to me in English thinking I was a tourist!

To tell you the truth, I didn’t care what people would say nor how they would look at me. I was out just being myself. All I can say is that I have never felt more comfortable and confident in my entire life. I  have never felt sexier or more attractive. Courage? Guts? “Balls”? I really don’t know. My heart did not race during the shave and I was smiling all the time.

Today, I wish I had shaved my head long time ago. I can’t believe I passed next to the most amazing experience all this time. I am happy and proud.

I am a girl, I live in Lebanon and I got my head shaved!

Here are the other – not so noble – reasons I want to share as a duty to myself honesty:

  1. Practicality:
    • No brushing
    • No spray
    • No gel
    • No accessories to keep the hair away from my face
    • No conditioner
    • No combs
    • No hair dryer
    • No coloring issues
    • No hair care treatments
    • No hair extensions
  2. Behavior modification:
    • No shower problems (hot water, timing of the shower)
    • No skullcap needed while swimming
    • No trouble sleeping/going out with wet hair
    • No discomfort driving with the air blowing on my face (It used to blow my hair)
    • No sweaty neck in the summer
    • No weird look after taking off a hat
    • No more bad hair days
    • No more dull hair
    • No more wet hair look at the beach
    • No more oily looks
    • No hair-loss discomfort
  3. Appearance:
    • No more “what should I do with my hair” question
    • No hair style issues
    • No more looking at the mirror for more than a minute
    • No more playing with my curls
    • No more hair sticking on my lips

Quick tips if you finally decide to step up and do it:

  • Don’t overexpose yourself to the sun immediately after the shave. Do it gradually in order to avoid useless sunburns and have a good looking homogeneous tan.
  • When temperature is really low, always cover your head to keep warm.
  • Smile a lot!

Fun(d) Raising details coming soon!

Follow up posts:

45 thoughts on “I got my head shaved!

  1. This is a good look for you, but the heart and reason behind your decision to do this is what is the most beautiful. Congratulations for going through with it.

  2. Wow, I’m a guy and I’m not brave enough to shave my head 😀 haha

    That said, it suits you very well. You look sexy 🙂

    I liked the ‘always smile’ tip.. I see a girl around campus who also has her head shaved, but she always has a ‘I’m gonna hit you’ look on her face, which kinda scared me. But once I heard her talk, I noticed she was really sweet. So, ya one should try to smile often 😀

    Na3iman!

    • Never shaved before? Waw.. I thought all guys did at least once in their lives.. 🙂 Thanks for the compliment.
      Actually, everybody needs to smile more often!

  3. I think you are just Gorgeous!…
    stunning with/without your hair!
    Brave Rita BRAVE!!
    and I love how supportive Salim is…
    So happy for you!

  4. I really admire what you did, never thought a girl might have the guts to so a similar thing! And best of all, it is for a cause.

  5. I really admire what you did, never thought a girl might have the guts to do a similar thing! And best of all, it is for a cause.

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  7. Wow.

    You are one hell of a brave woman. Hats off!

    I was actually telling my boyfriend last night that I am thinking of shaving my head… I still don’t know if I am as brave 🙂

    Regardless, you look gorgeous 🙂 And khay, no more styling worries and hair stuck to your lip gloss haha.

    • Thank you!

      You want it? Just do it & in case you don’t like it, just wait a bit…Hair grows!

      Try scarfs, see what you look like when you hide all your hair, if you’re satisfied, you are good to go!

  8. Every one has a story to tell once every while about somethin ,and as i can see u have a nice story line here with the sequence of ure photos that u just posted , and to me ure tellin me a tale on about how u shaved ure head and built up ure own character and identity and endin up tellin me “THIS IS ME” so i salute u for that lady .its amazing almost goes for a japanese anime comic book!
    Now to the corrupted and material world that exist around u this may sound absurd ,and “ugly” and a “freak show ” ,but beauty comes in different ways and faces who r they to tell u what beauty is ?so on my part i would love to ty for showin us this side of the story and we hold u high for ure bravery ,after all this is just another herioc act !cheers

  9. This is just the kinda news i needed to start my day.
    Such bravery and determination for a great cause can only be admired and encouraged. My father passed away from brain cancer, and this cause is really dear to me.

    As for “Preparing the workplace:
    * Saying “Tomorrow, I am going to shave” proved to be quite a shocker and thus, I had to comfort my colleagues that I wasn’t there to compromise the corporate image of the company (Oh, I am an employee too! 😀 ) by wearing a decent wig.”

    Phrases like “corporate image of the company” and “decent wig” really piss me off. the company you work at should have shown you more support.

    I look forward to you posting the Donation Details.

    ps: oh by the way, it really suits you and you look hot 🙂 so answering Would you date a bald chick? is a post written by Ivy, HELL YES, i’d date a bald chick 🙂

    • Dear Simon,

      I am so sorry for your loss. I lost many relatives to cancer too. I know what it’s like,

      I totally expected this reaction and I totally understand it.
      As for the wig, being a girl and having a previous experience with hair extensions (most of the girls do that for fun) I found out that some really looked fake and worn for fun with weird flashy colors and that there were several types of wigs.

      I call “decent” the one that looks natural on the person.

      I’ll be updating you the soonest concerning the Fun(d) Raising event.

      PS: Thank you a lot for answering Ivy’s question…Actually, the dating thing is an issue for many sick girls who underwent chemotherapy. I wish there were more men like you out there!

  10. you still look great. but u don’t “shave” your head with a trimmer, u need a razor blade for that. why a wig? i don’t get it. what was the point of trimming your hair pretty short in the first place, if you will go out with a wig? much ado about nothing!

    • Thank you for clarifying the technical dofference between a shave & a trim.
      Let me put it into perspective: From where I stand, being a girl and doing this, that’s for me a shave 🙂 I’m used to trim my eyebrows, but not my hair!

      Anyways, that said, I’m only using the wig at work now for reasons I’ll be posting soon.

      I invite you to visit a 14 years old girl undergoing chemotherapy and ask her how easy it is.

      Trimming/shaving this close does not suit all heads but I took the risk, no matter what.

      The wig is fun. I love the idea of being able to change my style extremely and easily.

      But hey, thank you for sharing!

  11. WOW i’m speechless!!!! you are so brave!! and i loved the new look ktir lebe2lik!!! i guess by now ur hair grew back a bit 🙂

  12. I shaved my head 6 times and didnt make this stupid huge fuss out of it.
    If u think it’s normal, u wouldnt make a huge deal.
    But u wanted to show that u r bold.
    Mbayan people cut their hair everyday, an inch , 2 , 3 or even 3al 0 but they don’t make this fuss!
    Gotta admit they look nice, bold head on chicks always was appealing to me

    • You can’t encourage people to do something without talking about it. Me thinking it’s normal is my personal opinion. It’s unimaginable for many others. Cutting inches everyday is doesn’t help in DONATING hair for wigs. You have no idea how no one knew that donating hair was possible nor how it could help.

  13. Your shaved hair is amazing and so inspiring! My cousin was recently been diagnosed with cancer and she is really scared.. and shes become really depressed at the thought of loosing her hair but showing her your blog and your pictures sh feels a lot better about that now.. in fact she says if she looks anywhere near as god as you do with shaved hair she then she would be so happy! Your showing people just how beautiful having no hair is.. in fact you look a lot better without hair! You should deifnlty keep this look and make it your look and keep on inspiring people???? Do you have instagram or anything like that?

    • Thank you very much for your comment! Your cousin’s journey will need a looooooot of patience and courage and all she needs to focus on is healing. Not hair. We look beautiful with or without hair; hair grows back and it really doesn’t matter. I’ve kept my hair short ever since and I have been experimenting with colors and different short lengths. I’m @ritakml all over the internet 🙂

      I wish you and your cousin the best. May she heal quickly and always stay strong! Lots of love! xxx

      • Thank you so much rita for getting back to me it means the world to both of us! You are a huge role model and it is great news that you are keeping your hair super short because you are helping show the world how hair is not what makes you beautiful. Do you prefer it short?

        Also do you do a styling blog r anything like that.. im sure that would be super helpful

        We will be sure to find you on instagram!

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