Friends are an important part of life. They constitute a supportive group and with time become family; especially if you live alone and/or abroad. It’s an essential and healthy pillar of anyone’s social life.
With people being at work all the time and following up on daily necessities, some of us have decided that one hand can clap alone… if you hit it on a hard surface. Ouch. But it technically does and could hurt but it does not have to be this way.
The solo bear geeks could also benefit from having friends for a myriad of reasons but making friends will not happen on its own nor by magic. It’s a initiative one needs to take: create the time and effort to work on it.
Face to face contact will have to start by leaving the laptop at home, go out and and work on “offline friends”. Speaking the solo bear geeks here: you can start by visiting places that you like where you have the highest probability of meeting people who share your interest. Then you can initiate a conversation randomly and see who keeps up and take it from there. It might not work from the first time yet you do not lose anything if you give it a try. You don’t need complicated scenarios and mysterious schemes.
This is how it worked for me, well almost… I actually bumped into someone while at the library where I used to spend my “offline” time (Don’t read and walk :P) and almost fought over a book (Written by Stephen King; I still remember!). We became friends. We went through lots of ups and downs but we never ever turned our backs on one another. Today, we are like siblings and I am really grateful for this experience that has been going for over 15 years now.
What’s your story? How did you meet your lifelong friend?