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Messages from India

India has a lot to show and a lot to say as well! Besides messages like “No guns allowed”, “No smoking, smoking here is an offense” in all public areas and “Think of those who wait for you” or “Do not pee” on the street, you see things like below:

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What I learned from India

When I received the invitation to India, I was not sure what to expect. My knowledge about this part of the world was based on information I got from other people who already went there and a few TV documentaries. I did not research and I did not plan like I usually would do before any trip. I just went “with the flow”.

I had preconceived ideas of how things would be. Like everyone else, I was influenced by my environment and my upbringing. But as soon as I got out of that plane, everything changed. This not only made me learn and realize many things but also ask myself many questions too:

  1. I am a slave to my habits.
    Every time I had to get in a car, I would go to the wrong  side. EVERY TIME. I learned driving 10 years ago and I always took for granted that the driver was on the left… But it’s not the case in India. My friends would laugh and remind me of the difference… in vain!
  2. Patience is a virtue
    I used to cursed traffic and driving in Lebanon. I will no more… Not after I experienced the traffic in India. By the way, did you know that most cars have no mirrors? You can choose between theft and reckless driving!
  3. Don’t be opinionated. Do not judge. It’s all about perception and there is always another way to do the same things.
    When I landed in India, I could not help myself but realize how many values were in common with our middle-eastern culture. But later, I had to realize how different it was from it too. From the bathrooms to the restaurants to the way of doing business. I observed and compared.
  4. Poverty is everywhere. What are we doing to solve this problem?
    I saw people sleeping on the highway separators and on the sidewalks trying to protect their faces from the 42C burning sun with a woolen cloth. I saw an old woman picking up the cigarette that a man smoked and threw on the floor and try smoking whatever was left herself. I saw men and women peeing and defecate on the sidewalk next to the highway with “no shame”. I saw people living in unspeakable conditions in unspeakable places and I saw shops that looked more like a desperate initiative to sell anything.
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  5. Being able to secure a steady income is a luxury.
    This woman is trying to make a living by working in a 1 m2 shop with no door, no a/c, no nothing.
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  6. Not everyone has access to running water.
    This woman is washing clothes on the street.
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  7. Not everyone has access to electricity.
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  8. While safety may be an obsession to some, others just don’t care. Where are the standards and who is watching?
    This man is wearing a helmet for a trip on a cycle rickshaw.
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  9. Many children are made to work dangerous jobs at night. What are we doing to keep them safe?
    This young boy is working at night lifting a heavy lamp wired to a generator for more than 30 minutes.
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  10. Love is universal.
    I went to India to attend a friend’s wedding. I had no idea that I would have a special bond with the family. They made me feel home; more than that they made me feel as a member of the family. In less than a week, total strangers became people I really care about, love and think about everyday!

I’m definitely never going to take anything for granted anymore. It was one unforgettable experience!

More pictures from my India collection can be found on Flickr!

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Few tweets from India

Below, a few consolidated tweets about India during my visit from 5 till 15 May, 2011 under the hashtag #rkindia.

  • 2 weeks in India made me lose 4Kgs!! #rkindia
  • I haven’t slept for several days and I still smell like curry! I think I’ll go to sleep for an indefinite number of hours! #rkindia
  • The Indian Duty Free is interesting! #rkindia
  • Why is saying goodbye so hard? I’m crying like a baby icon sad Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • I got to participate in the prayers while at a Buddhist monastery icon smile Few tweets from India Interesting! #rkindia
  • If anyone decides to visit India, earplugs are MANDATORY. You will thank me later icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • I’m eating homemade Indian food with ZERO spices -> YUM!!! But, I have NO idea what it is exactly. #rkindia
  • When entering the security check (internal flight) I had a bottle of water. For “security reasons”, I was asked to drink it. :S #rkindia
  • Me: I would like to have 1 tea and 2 doughnuts. Him: OK maa’m, 2 teas and 1 doughnut. Plz take a seat. #rkindia
  • Me: Is it possible to have chicken fried rice with zero spices? Him: You want spice maa’m? #rkindia
  • Me: I wld like 2 know if there is anything on the menu with zero spices. Him: Yes, maa’m, how can I help u? #rkindia
  • Me: Do u have another brand of water besides “Aquafina”? Him: Yes, maa’m. We have soda, juices and beer. #rkindia
  • I hate goodbyes. “Will we ever see you again” questions. They bring tears to my eyes #rkindia
  • In India EVERYTHING is spicy!! Even one of the internal airlines!!!!http://j.mp/9I9ABq #rkindia
  • U don’t use the words “Fries”, “Ketchup”, “Check”, and “Died” BUT “Potato Chips”, “Tomato Sauce”. “Bill” and “Expired” #rkindia
  • Signs u see in India: “No smoking.Smoking here is an offense”, “Do not spit”, “Do not pee” #rkindia
  • I strongly believe that the best Mango one can have is from INDIA #rkindia
  • My mehendi is coming off icon sad Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • Hello from Darjeeling, India! It’s moist, foggy & cold! Nothing to do with the 42C of New Delhi! #rkindia
  • When in India, you learn to appreciate cold showers icon biggrin Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • Guess what!! My name is Indian icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia #blessed
  • I’m fond of a very special little Indian boy. His name is Kunal! #rkindia
  • Indian Facts: Smoking is prohibited in all public places. It’s considered an offense! #rkindia
  • Cows are sacred, they are free on the streets, people feed them and respect them #rkindia
  • I’m being treated like a princess in #India #rkindia. The people are adorable.
  • In the mall, you go through metal check, bag check and body check! + there is security in front of EVERY shop!! #rkindia
  • Security is very much taken seriously in India #rkindia
  • 2 days in India but I did not take any photos yet #rkindia
  • I’m starting to hate this globalization effect #rkindia
  • Just played a PS3 game icon smile Few tweets from India PS3 is quite popular in India too! #rkindia
  • It looks like I’m the only person without a Blackberry #rkindia
  • I’ll be wearing a traditional dress tailor-made specially for me. There can’t be a more royal treatment #blessed #rkindia
  • “Most of Indian families have housemaids, they are ready to get in debt to get one.” Does this sound familiar to anyone? icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • I think I will stop complaining about the traffic in Lebanon after what I’m seeing in India icon wink Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • I love how children run towards me screaming: Hello! Hello! With their big smiles #rkindia
  • “Think of those who wait for you. We are working to keep you safe.” – Message from the Indian traffic police #rkindia
  • Indians, 99% of them wear helmets while driving a motorcycle. Unlike Lebanon #rkindia
  • Yesterday, I took some pics but was not happy with them. I’m giving myself some time to get the into the feel of the place icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • My first night in India and I slept till noon like a baby! #rkindia
  • If you think Lebanese weddings are lavish…Attend an Indian wedding and think again icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • I’m blown away by India #rkindia
  • Chalfateetttttt!!!! 7ar7areeeeettttt! #rkindia
  • Concerning street photography, I asked about the rules: There are none! icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • My milk is pink! What’s in it? … Rose! #rkindia
  • Was welcomed at the house of the soon-to-be groom. Lovely family! Made me feel at home icon smile Few tweets from India  #rkindia
  • And the weather in India is HOT!! #rkindia
  • First impression: New Delhi & Lebanon have a LOT in common! #rkindia
  • #nowreporting live from #India!! #rkindia
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Punjabi wedding rituals

Weddings says a lot about one’s culture and Punjabis have a unique way to prepare for the big day.

There are a LOT of rituals that are performed in both families of the to-be-wed couple. Every single one of them is done for a purpose and means something.

The Roka Ceremony

The roka or saith ceremony, is an announcement that the boy and girl have found their soulmates and will look no further for a life partner. The girl’s mama (mother’s brother) gives her the nath (nose ring) which she will wear on her wedding. The origin of this ceremony lies in the arranged marriage norm where the parents would let out the world that they are looking for a suitable match for their son or daughter. And once they had found that match, their search had come to an end. Though rings are not exchanged, the couple stand unofficially engaged after this ceremony.

The Sagan and Engagement Ceremonies

A pandit performs ‘havan’.

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She is also presented with jewellery, which her mother and sister-in-law help her wear. A tiny dot of mehendi is applied to her palm for good luck, and the function is sealed with the exchange of rings. Everyone present congratulates the couple by feeding them sweet.

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Mehendi and Sangeet Celebrations

Mehendi takes place in the atmosphere of a party. The bride and other ladies get mehend done, on their hands and feet. Ladies get it done only on their hands but the bride gets it done on both hands and feet. For the bride the mehendi is sent by the future Mother in Law.

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DSC 6854 300x198 Punjabi wedding ritualsSangeet is a musical program. Wedding folk songs are sung and all the relatives and friends dance to the tunes of the music. This ceremony is considered auspicious as the wedding songs are said to be full of blessings for the prospective couple. Also, this ceremony becomes amusing with interesting songs with teasing punches for the prospective couple and dance performances by every younger and elder member of the family.

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The Wedding Ceremony

A havan is conducted by the pandit.

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The bridegroom is applied a paste of turmeric and mustard oil and is bathed by water brought from the temple.

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His maternal uncle presents his attire.  After he has bathed and changed into his new clothes, puja is performed. The boy’s father or an elderly relative is given the honour of tying the “sehra” on his head. A pink colour turban is first touched by all the relatives present before it is tied on the boy’s head. The Ghori Chadna is the final ceremony at the groom’s place. The boy’s eyes are lined with surma to ward off the evil eye. He is then seated on a female horse and his sisters tie a mauli (sacred thread) on the reins of his horse. They also detain the horse in the tradition known as baagpakdai, saying that they won’t leave it’s reins unless their brother bribes them. Once they are satisfied with the cash or jewellery bribe, they release the reins so the groom can gallop off to the venue.

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The father, brother, uncles and grandfathers of the groom embrace the corresponding members of the bride’s family.

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When they enter the venue the bride is brought out and the couple exchange garlands. The bride and the groom accept each other and will love and live together with one and other.

DSC 7466 198x300 Punjabi wedding ritualsAt the time of muhurat, the purohit conducts a puja for the groom, in which the groom is asked to chant the first few mantras. It is during this time, when the bride’s sisters indulge in stealing of shoes. It is a fun tradition, in which the girls charge a fee for agreeing to return the shoes.

DSC 7591 198x300 Punjabi wedding ritualsThe wedding concludes with the seven pheras round, where the couple exchange vows in front of the sacred fire. The groom applies vermilion to the girl’s hair partition and ties a beaded necklace to the girl’s neck. When all these rituals are over, the couple gets up to touch the feet of all the elder members in the family and seek their blessings for a happily married life.

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Congratulations to Nishank & Kanika!

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Flying to India

There I was: waiting for boarding time while reading an issue from Chasseur D’Images, a French photography magazine. It wasn’t too long before a man sitting next to me engaged conversation: “Are you a make up artist?”

The page I was reading was about beauty and fashion photography, so, obviously it caught his eye. “No, but I’m interested in photography”, I replied. Next thing you know, he’s a jewelry designer who traveled a lot. “Are you going on vacation?”, I asked. “Yes, I am! To Fuket island. Do you know Fuket island?”. Well, I knew Phuket. Could it be  that’s what he meant? (Why do we, Lebanese, need to be so original?)  As he was tailing his adventures in Brasil, I went on asking him what place was the best so far. “Tripoli! Tripoli is the best place to be! I’m a like a fish out of the water when away from Tripoli. I’m from Tripoli by the way.” That’s cute, I thought. So many aspired to leave the country while this man feels there is no place like home. I wish there were more people like that.

On Qatar airline’s plane, I sat next to the window, a man sat on the end of the row leaving the middle seat empty. “Hello! Where are you from?” he asked with a smile. With my own big smile I replied with pride: “Lebanon! I’m Lebanese!”. He thought I was German. “You’re not the first one to get lost”, I reassured him. And the investigation went on about my destination, my reasons for traveling, what I did in life. This man turned to be a shoe retailer on his way to China for business. A few hours later, a complaint was raised by the man sitting behind me. We were arriving to destination and he was insisting on getting something alcoholic to drink. He made it clear that it wasn’t the first time he few this airline yet it was the first time that a drink was refused to him. The hostess had to explain the regulations and that there was nothing she could do at this time. “The bar has to be closed 30 minutes before arriving to Qatar. It’s an Islamic country with strict regulations concerning alcohol. But you may file a complaint, if you wish”… which he did. “I feel really sorry for the hostesses, said the man next to me, You have no idea about the amount of crap they have to put up with during long flights.”

Unfortunately for me, the food served on the plane was spicy. Why didn’t the agency ask me if I had food preferences? A question to be asked on the way back, that’s for sure.

The small positive encounters make time go faster. Two hours and a half  later I met with the soon-to-be-old airport as a new one was under construction. Good thing the experience was going to temporary. The plane to New Delhi was huge and full. I got seated in a place I did not like. (Why didn’t the agency ask me if I had a seating preference again?) This flight was long and difficult for me. Turbulences were announced and more spicy food! On this flight, though the treatment was even friendlier. A staff member ensured I get something to eat. “It’s a long flight. It’s better if you ate something.” Suddenly, some men stood up and started praying next to the exit door. The multitude of cultures one could meet on a plain is fantastic.

I did not sleep much. When we arrived and stood up to leave the aircraft. The man who was sitting next to me and who happened to be a Sikh asked me what business I had in India and where I came from. “I’m from Lebanon and I came to attend a friend’s wedding.” He looked at me for minute and said: “He must be a very special friend for you to fly all this way.”

Indeed he was, we had met at university in Nice, France back in 2005. I didn’t see him since but we kept contact. Now that I think of it, this was a memorable trip. I made friends from all around the world and I’m still in contact with many of them. Enriching at all levels, to say the least.

My Indian friend picked me up at the airport. I went to the wrong side of the car. “We drive on the other way”, he reminded me. I laughed. It was so good to see him after all this time! At home, he introduced me to the family and showed the room I going to occupy. “Feel at home”, everyone said. I was offered chocolates as a welcome gift.

I was a bit shy and intimidated at first, ignorant of their customs ans manners, I was afraid to do or something wrong that might upset someone. I was given to eat and drink. I rested a bit before a driver came to pick me up and show me around a bit. We toured the main government buildings, pass next to many temples and churches and drove around. Noted the 3 -wheeled taxis, the overcharged bicycles, the motorcycle drivers wearing helmets, (Unlike Lebanon…), the life! It was hotter than I expected, I felt like my jeans were melting. 3 hours later I asked to be dropped back home. I was really tired and sleepy, the weather was not helping either. I had a snack and went to sleep. 3 hours of good sleep before 7 pm. My friend woke me up. “Get ready, we are going to attend 2 of my friends’ weddings. They are both getting married on the same day and both would be upset if I don’t show up.”

For the first wedding, we went to the groom’s house. It was decorated and there was a tent outside. Live music was playing. A ceremony was taking place indoors. I was invited to get in. Welcomed with smiles, I needed a moment to adapt. My eyes were bombarded with colors, such a pleasant sight. Later, the sister of the groom shows up. She takes me by the hand, and gives me money. “Make a circle above the head of the groom and give it to the priest”, explained his brother who was standing close. It was to wish him luck and prosperity. I then had to bow to get the priest’s blessing. A sort of red powder and rice on it went to my forehead. This, for me, was surreal! My friend took a few minutes to explain the proceedings of the ceremony. “He will visit the temple after that to pray and continue to the venue”. Soon, there were too many people top fit in the room. I had to go out for some air. A white decorated horse was there. A female white horse that would take the groom to the temple and to the venue.

“Now, it’s time go to the second wedding!”, said my friend as he was rushing in the car. Traffic was terrible! “There is around 20,000 weddings today. The bad season ended. An astrological thing.” he said with a smile. For the second wedding, we arrived to the venue. A HUUUUUGGGGGEEEEE set! People everywhere! Music and so much food! And I thought Lebanese weddings were lavish! Ha! In my face!

Finding something not spicy to eat was difficult. Good thing there was bread and fruits! But I had my share of spice while tasting things that were said not to be spicy. Fortunately for me, also, the family I was staying with did not cook spicy meals.

India was going to be exciting and that was only the start!

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